Jaded
The sad truth is that the longer I remain single, the more cynical and jaded I become about finding love. The negativity comes off as bitterness and encourages a never ending cycle that is not so attractive.
So how do you date and remain single without letting yourself become jaded? I see it all around me with singles my age. It slowly creeps in, and before you know it, you have given up on true love and end up settling for the next person who walks through your door…just so you dont have to spend the rest of your life waiting for some “fairy-tale ending” that will never come true. I will never settle…but I may end up alone if I dont change my attitude towards people.
The opposite of cynicism is hope, trust, optimism.
Focusing on the positive, not the negative..and being able to see the good in people is where I will start breaking this cynical cycle.
And any other advice is much appreciated…
I feel you Sabrina and every time I find myself start losing hope, worrying about logistics, worrying about finding the kind of person I want to be with, I realize that in that moment, I’m not trusting that God is in control.
I know it sounds cliche. But I do find that it helps. When I find myself worrying about “well how will I know that she will….. if we don’t …..” or things like “what if she…..” and “but I want somebody who ……”, I’ve found that stopping and reminding myself (often with much effort and repetition), “hey, if it’s right, and God’s in it, He’ll give me what I need and take care of the details” Then I can focus on trying to live a life that pleases Him and giving all the things that actually ARE going on in my life 100% effort.
I hope this helps. I know it always puts me back in perspective. It may only last 20 minutes or so……
Thanks for sharing that Jason. That was a very helpful reminder!